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Compliments that Connect

Compliments that ConnectHow able are you to accept a compliment?We all know we “SHOULD” accept compliments when we receive them, but here's the funny thing about compliments- they often come in the form of judgment:“You're so pretty” “You're so smart" “You're such a calm person” “You're so kind and considerate”Have you ever noticed that you might feel slightly uneasy with these compliments even though you “should” be able to take a compliment?The thing with these types of compliments [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:29-08:00May 17th, 2014|Categories: NVC|Tags: comm, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, connection, empowerment, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, NVC practice, relationship building, win-win|4 Comments

Empathy Before Education

Empathy Before Education"I regretted how often in the past I'd rendered children incompetent by stepping in too soon." ~ Tom HobsonThis sentence from the Teacher Tom blog jumped out at me.I wonder how often we render children incompetent by stepping in too soon. I wonder how often we render anyone incompetent by stepping in too soon.I've noticed in my time working with children that we so often per-determine their capabilities or lack there of and step in before [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:28-08:00May 9th, 2014|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, NVC|0 Comments

Mind the Gap

Mind the Gap: Perhaps you've walked away from a situation or condition that you have been tolerating or that is no-longer serving you and at first it feels liberating. Then you start to wonder if you made the right choice, if things will work out, if you were just overreacting or being silly, if maybe you could have worked things out after all. Maybe you're even considering going back... to the job, to the relationship, to the circumstances that challenged [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:58-08:00May 1st, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: change, Consciousness, empowerment, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation, Vision|0 Comments

The voice that speaks inside

The Voice That Speaks InsideThe Voice, by Shel SilversteinAhh, yes! The voice that speaks inside. And yet, how often do we deny or crush that voice? How often do we argue with that voice or make it wrong?What if you're not wrong? What if you stopped drowning out that voice and started listening to its every little whisper? What would it have to tell you? What would it show you about your life, about your heart, about your [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:28-08:00April 25th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, empowerment, freedom, inner voice, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Self-trust, Social Construction of Childhood|1 Comment

“GOOD” relationships…

"GOOD Relationships" "It only takes one person to have a good relationship..." I heard that piece of information from Byron Katie a while back, but it has taken me a quite a while to really get its meaning. What does that mean? How can that be? My friend was there to listen and make this a good relationship... even if I wasn't having it. So often we blame our partner for how the relationship is [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:02:30-08:00January 15th, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, Byron Katie, choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, healing, peace, personal empowerment, personal power, relationship, relationship building, respect, self-respect|3 Comments

Flexing Your Positivity Muscle

Flexing your Positivity Muscle Yes, positivity is like a muscle, it gets stronger the more we use it. Same with negativity. Which muscles have you been flexing lately? Here's a daily exercise routine to help you build strength in positivity: You notice you're awake What are the first thoughts you are thinking? How do those thoughts make you feel? If it's something other than along the lines of grateful, joyful, happy and excited to be alive, there's some [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:20:40-08:00October 25th, 2013|Categories: Transformation|Tags: empowerment, personal empowerment, positivity, self-help|0 Comments

Begin with the End in Mind

Begin with the End in Mind Begin. With the end. In mind. I can't tell you how true this is becoming for me, particularly and acutely in how I relate to and engage with other people. Often acting or engaging in ways that have not contributed to creating the kind of connection or engagement I desire, I have begun to really think before I act... So often we choose the opposite. We choose actions that are very unlikely [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:15:06-08:00October 17th, 2013|Categories: NVC, relationship|Tags: Awareness, communication skills, connection, empowerment, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, personal empowerment, relationship building, self regulation, Self-determination, self-help|1 Comment

Changing others?

The Power We Have in Relationships I am realizing just how little power I have over other people, particularly if I want to stay in an empowered place myself. Any time I make another person at fault or responsible for my experience, I have given my power away. When I do that, their behavior determines my experience and consequently requires them to change if I wish to have a different experience. If you think about it, I imagine [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:08:50-08:00October 9th, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, NVC, relationship|Tags: Awareness, choice, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, connection, empowerment, freedom, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Power with, Self-determination|2 Comments

What IS actually Possible?

What IS actually Possible? Would you like to find out? Have you ever noticed how many conditions and limitations you put on your life? Have you ever noticed how many conclusions you have every day about what is or isn't possible, about that you can and can't do? Me hiking in the Andes in Argentina. I thought I'd NEVER make it to the top, but I DID! I have! And guess what else I noticed? When [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:07:16-08:00October 3rd, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, Depression, Transformation|Tags: Awareness, child Empowerment, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, Self-determination, self-help, Transformation|1 Comment

Approval Seeking

Approval Seeking ... I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul... From The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer How much in your life are you seeking approval from outside yourself for who you are and what you do?... How does that feel? How much do you give yourself inner approval? How much do you do things for yourself, [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:47:58-08:00September 25th, 2013|Categories: Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: approval, Awareness, choice, empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Transformation|0 Comments

Receiving Judgement

Receiving Judgment How many of us stop yourselves because we are afraid to be judged, afraid what others will think? When you are being more than others are willing to receive or to allow themselves to be, they will go into judgment of you. So, do you want to function from and be controlled by others limitations or are you willing to choose and have a reality that works for you, regardless of what others think? The more [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:40:15-08:00September 16th, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, judgement, receiving, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust|2 Comments

Being in Acceptance

Being in Acceptance I've been writing a lot about choosing, about honoring your YES and Your NO, on being intolerant, essentially on truly listening to yourself, knowing what's true for you and honoring that. Though it may at first appear contradictory, today I want to write about acceptance You may have heard the statement “what you resist persists.” Maybe you've even found it to be true... As long as we are resisting something, in opposition to something, we [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:38:34-08:00September 5th, 2013|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Acceptance, Awareness, Being present, choice, Consciousness, healing, peace, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Presence, self-help, Transformation|2 Comments

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