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Subconscious Family Patterning

Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:12:55-07:00June 21st, 2020|Categories: Family|Tags: choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, freedom, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious beliefs, Subconscious patterning|2 Comments

Lessons from Depression: Self Denial

Lessons from Depression Lesson Number Two: There's some part of me that I'm denying Another discovery I'm having around depression is that when it is mine, it usually means that I'm cutting myself off from some part of myself- that I am engaging in some form of self-denial. This could be something I don't want to be aware of- like how angry I am- or having lots of judgment and wrongness toward myself rather than space and acceptance. How [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:45:08-07:00March 9th, 2020|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: connection, empowerment, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons From Depression: Is this even mine?

Lessons from Depression I'm no stranger to depression. It's something that has been part of my reality, probably since I was about 11 when my beloved teacher of four years died of cancer and I was moving away from childhood into puberty. Dealing with hormonal changes and confronting the realities of life and death at 11 on my own were way too much for my 11-year-old self to handle. So I just kind of cut myself off from [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:25:35-07:00February 1st, 2020|Categories: Depression|Tags: Awareness, Consciousness, depression, empowerment, freedom, happiness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-awareness, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

What do YOU know about YOU?

What do YOU know about YOU? What If somewhere deep down inside of you you KNOW what is true for you, YOU know what is going on for you and what you need to do to shift the places you are stuck or that you feel aren't working in your life? What if no-one, no matter how educated, smart, perceptive, intuitive, or magical knows better than you what is right and true for you? Yet, how often do [...]

By Elana|2015-04-03T16:45:48-07:00April 3rd, 2015|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, healing, personal empowerment, Self-determination, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons from depression: Support your body

Lessons from Depression: Lesson Three: Your Body Might Need Some Support From You As much as I see depression as a symptom- often of something going on in the psyche, some place we are cutting ourselves off from ourselves and our awareness- I know for me it was also important to address the condition of my physical body. Your body also might desire and require additional support and help to balance that it hasn't been getting. I started feeling [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:51-08:00March 25th, 2015|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: body, connection, Consciousness, Cooperation, depression, empowerment, healing, health, nutrition, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self regulation, Transformation, wellbeing|0 Comments

Bars!

Bars! What the heck are Bars? They are points on the head where you hold the electromagnetic charges of your thoughts and beliefs, and when you "have your Bars run" you can discharge and re-set these charges to create more space, peace and possibility. Sound like a whole lot of hocus-pocus? Yeah, that's what I thought too... until I got off the table and experienced such a deep sense of space, peace, calm and self-connection that I'd been [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:37-08:00November 21st, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Access Consciousness, Awareness, Bars, Being present, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, healing, peace, space, Transformation|1 Comment

Positivity and it’s unintended consequences

Positivity and its Unintended Consequences I have noticed a trend in the world I live in toward extreme positivity and optimism. There are even many teachers and leaders and celebrity advocates in the world of positive thinking. While I do see great value on accentuating the positive, and that it can be a powerful tool to transform our experiences, I think it also has its unintended consequences. One of these consequences is to be in denial about the [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:29-08:00July 31st, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Consciousness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Transformation|1 Comment

“GOOD” relationships…

"GOOD Relationships" "It only takes one person to have a good relationship..." I heard that piece of information from Byron Katie a while back, but it has taken me a quite a while to really get its meaning. What does that mean? How can that be? My friend was there to listen and make this a good relationship... even if I wasn't having it. So often we blame our partner for how the relationship is [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:02:30-08:00January 15th, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, Byron Katie, choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, healing, peace, personal empowerment, personal power, relationship, relationship building, respect, self-respect|3 Comments

Being in Acceptance

Being in Acceptance I've been writing a lot about choosing, about honoring your YES and Your NO, on being intolerant, essentially on truly listening to yourself, knowing what's true for you and honoring that. Though it may at first appear contradictory, today I want to write about acceptance You may have heard the statement “what you resist persists.” Maybe you've even found it to be true... As long as we are resisting something, in opposition to something, we [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:38:34-08:00September 5th, 2013|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Acceptance, Awareness, Being present, choice, Consciousness, healing, peace, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Presence, self-help, Transformation|2 Comments

Learning to Trust your YES and your NO

Learn to trust your YES and your NO Do you remember what it was like to be five years old? To trust yourself and to clearly know what you did and didn’t want?… To go for what you wanted without hesitation?… To freely share your love and your joy and your aliveness with the world? So what happened to that? What happened to your confidence in knowing what you do or don't want and what's true for you? [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:06:56-08:00July 18th, 2013|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: child rearing, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, healing, inner listening, intuition, Knowing, Parenting, peace, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation, yes and no|4 Comments

Moving past judgements

Moving past Judgements Have you noticed that a lot of what takes you out of being present are judgements and conclusions? Have you noticed that a lot of the feeling crappy that we experience actually has to do with judgements? What If You Stopped Judging You? What would your life be like if you could let yourself just be? What would it be like if you spent one whole day not judging you? Have you ever spent time [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T21:36:30-08:00June 11th, 2013|Categories: being an empath, Transformation|Tags: Being present, Compassion, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, healing, peace, Possibility, Presence, self-help, self-respect, Transformation, Transforming Judements|0 Comments

Getting Deeply Present

BECOME DEEPLY PRESENT WITH LIFE So much of our suffering has to do with some story we tell ourselves either about the past or future, conclusions we draw about life and how things are or aren't happening, what has happened that we didn't like or that we miss about what happened, what will happen and how much better or worse than this moment it will be. In the midst of great uncertainty in my life to the point [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:01:04-08:00June 6th, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation|Tags: Being present, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, Gratitude, healing, Now, Presence, Spirtuality, The power of now, Tips, Transformation|3 Comments

Needs Vs. Strategies…

Distinguishing Needs from Strategies Something I've been studying and working with for many years is something called "Nonviolent Communication" or NVC, which some of you may be familiar with. I struggle with this name as I don't believe that either the Nonviolent or the Communication piece really articulates what it's about. My working explanation for Nonviolent Communication goes like this: Nonviolent Communication is not only a language and process for expressing ourselves and hearing others, it is also [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T20:08:55-08:00May 28th, 2013|Categories: NVC|Tags: choice, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, Conflict Resolution, connection, decision making, empowerment, equality, freedom, getting along, healing, human relationships, Marshall Rosenberg, Needs, needs and strategies, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, NVC practice, Power with, relationship building, respect, Self-determination, self-responsability, win-win|6 Comments

Children navigating their sex lives- Part 2 in series on body space/freedom of movement

Children’s Sex Lives (part two in series on body space/freedom of movement) Both on the subject of allowing children to trust themselves and their bodies and on the task of bringing children into full parity rather than enforcing inequality through limiting, I have come to examine our ideas around children and sex. We make many assumptions and justifications regarding our need to control and limit children in this area; but do such ideas really help to bring children [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T06:33:19-08:00May 2nd, 2011|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, body space/movement|Tags: A.S. Neill, child rearing, childhood, chlid empowerment, equality, healing, Parent-child relationships, Power with, Self-determination|0 Comments

Making Presence a Priority

Shifting Priorities Not only being in kids’ lives, but fostering a certain quality of relationship is very important. If we want to make a real difference in kids’ lives, then not only our presence, but the quality of that presence can be extremely important. How do we make a cultural shift to the point where taking care of children and giving them full attention, the quality of our presence in their lives, is just as important as anything [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T06:45:06-08:00April 8th, 2011|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood|Tags: child rearing, childhood, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, connection, Cooperation, healing, Louise Dietzel, Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication, P.E.T., Parent-child relationships, Parenting, Power with, relationship building, Thomas Gordon, win-win|1 Comment