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Subconscious Family Patterning

Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:12:55-06:00June 21st, 2020|Categories: Family|Tags: choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, freedom, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious beliefs, Subconscious patterning|2 Comments

Finding who you be beyond your family

Finding who you BE beyond your family Through some deep work and exploration with one of my clients, what I'm coming to see as a real step into adulthood is being able to create yourself and your life beyond your family. That is, to choose for you your own beliefs, thoughts, ideas, or ways of being. To make choices about how you spend your time and run your life based on what you want and what works for you, [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:00:04-06:00June 11th, 2020|Categories: Family, Transformation|Tags: adulthood, Autonomy, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, family, Family patterning, Family programming, freedom, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons From Depression: Is this even mine?

Lessons from Depression I'm no stranger to depression. It's something that has been part of my reality, probably since I was about 11 when my beloved teacher of four years died of cancer and I was moving away from childhood into puberty. Dealing with hormonal changes and confronting the realities of life and death at 11 on my own were way too much for my 11-year-old self to handle. So I just kind of cut myself off from [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:25:35-06:00February 1st, 2020|Categories: Depression|Tags: Awareness, Consciousness, depression, empowerment, freedom, happiness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-awareness, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

Can We Meet Again for the First Time?

Can We Meet Again for the First Time? What would it take to receive each new being freshly? To live on that edge of expectancy and discovery of finding out who you and they are? What would it take to meet each person in your life again for the first time? Can you receive them with that much freshness? Can you let go of everything you've ever known or created about them to discover who they are and [...]

By Elana|2015-05-16T01:49:19-06:00May 13th, 2015|Categories: Transformation, Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, Being present, connection, Consciousness, freedom, Parent-child relationships|2 Comments

Who is Anyone to Anyone?

Who is Anyone to Anyone? How the conceptions we have of others keep us and them from changing or being known for who we truly are I go through lots of change. The person I was three months ago, doesn't actually exist anymore. Except to the people I haven't seen in three months, that's how they know me- or even more likely they don't actually have the three month old model of me but one much older than that which is [...]

By Elana|2015-05-16T01:50:05-06:00May 5th, 2015|Categories: Family, Transformation|Tags: Being present, connection, Consciousness, family, freedom, peace, Personal Development, relationship building, respect, Self-determination, Transformation|0 Comments

Some thoughts on Maturity

Some Thoughts on Maturity What does maturity mean to you? What makes someone mature or immature? I began to more-deeply investigate the question of maturity when I noticed I was repeatedly judging someone in my life as immature. Being a practitioner of Nonviolent Communication, which invites us to move beyond our judgement to see more clearly what is actually occurring, I wanted to really unpack what behaviors or ways of being I was labeling as immature. What I came to see [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:09:34-07:00August 22nd, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, choice, Compassionate Communication, connection, Consciousness, freedom, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Personal Development, Self-determination|1 Comment

Trust yourself and choose for you

Trust Yourself and Choose for YOU no Justification or Explanation required I am finding the courage to just walk away. Walk away from situations, conditions, dynamics, ways of being and engaging that aren't serving me or resonate for me. Knowing what's true for me in a given moment and trusting and following that truth. It feels truly liberating. No explaining, no justifying, no arguing with myself, also no blame, just clear, present choice about what works for me, how I [...]

By Elana|2019-12-08T18:56:43-07:00June 13th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Being present, care-taking, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, personal empowerment, self-confidence, self-respect, Self-trust, trusting yourself, yes|2 Comments

The voice that speaks inside

The Voice That Speaks InsideThe Voice, by Shel SilversteinAhh, yes! The voice that speaks inside. And yet, how often do we deny or crush that voice? How often do we argue with that voice or make it wrong?What if you're not wrong? What if you stopped drowning out that voice and started listening to its every little whisper? What would it have to tell you? What would it show you about your life, about your heart, about your [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:28-07:00April 25th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, empowerment, freedom, inner voice, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Self-trust, Social Construction of Childhood|1 Comment

Changing others?

The Power We Have in Relationships I am realizing just how little power I have over other people, particularly if I want to stay in an empowered place myself. Any time I make another person at fault or responsible for my experience, I have given my power away. When I do that, their behavior determines my experience and consequently requires them to change if I wish to have a different experience. If you think about it, I imagine [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:08:50-07:00October 9th, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, NVC, relationship|Tags: Awareness, choice, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, connection, empowerment, freedom, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Power with, Self-determination|2 Comments

What IS actually Possible?

What IS actually Possible? Would you like to find out? Have you ever noticed how many conditions and limitations you put on your life? Have you ever noticed how many conclusions you have every day about what is or isn't possible, about that you can and can't do? Me hiking in the Andes in Argentina. I thought I'd NEVER make it to the top, but I DID! I have! And guess what else I noticed? When [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:07:16-07:00October 3rd, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, Depression, Transformation|Tags: Awareness, child Empowerment, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, Self-determination, self-help, Transformation|1 Comment

Receiving Judgement

Receiving Judgment How many of us stop yourselves because we are afraid to be judged, afraid what others will think? When you are being more than others are willing to receive or to allow themselves to be, they will go into judgment of you. So, do you want to function from and be controlled by others limitations or are you willing to choose and have a reality that works for you, regardless of what others think? The more [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:40:15-07:00September 16th, 2013|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, judgement, receiving, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust|2 Comments

Learning to Trust your YES and your NO

Learn to trust your YES and your NO Do you remember what it was like to be five years old? To trust yourself and to clearly know what you did and didn’t want?… To go for what you wanted without hesitation?… To freely share your love and your joy and your aliveness with the world? So what happened to that? What happened to your confidence in knowing what you do or don't want and what's true for you? [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:06:56-07:00July 18th, 2013|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, Transformation, Trusting yourself|Tags: child rearing, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, healing, inner listening, intuition, Knowing, Parenting, peace, Self-determination, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation, yes and no|4 Comments

Exploring Violence and Nonviolence in Communication

What does Nonviolence mean to you? We opened our first class of Communication From the Inside Out with this question. As we delved into the exploration of Violence and Nonviolence we discovered that violence and the roots of violence is far more complex and complicated than we ever would have imagined. Recognizing violence in all of it's forms Most people think of violence as physical harm, brutality and the like, in which most of us don't actively participate, [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T02:21:32-07:00June 18th, 2013|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, NVC, Transformation|Tags: Adult-child Relationships, Arun Gandhi, child Empowerment, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, equality, freedom, Marshall Rosenberg, nonviolence, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Parent-child relationships, Parenting, Power with, respect, self-help|0 Comments

Moving past judgements

Moving past Judgements Have you noticed that a lot of what takes you out of being present are judgements and conclusions? Have you noticed that a lot of the feeling crappy that we experience actually has to do with judgements? What If You Stopped Judging You? What would your life be like if you could let yourself just be? What would it be like if you spent one whole day not judging you? Have you ever spent time [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T21:36:30-07:00June 11th, 2013|Categories: being an empath, Transformation|Tags: Being present, Compassion, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, healing, peace, Possibility, Presence, self-help, self-respect, Transformation, Transforming Judements|0 Comments

Needs Vs. Strategies…

Distinguishing Needs from Strategies Something I've been studying and working with for many years is something called "Nonviolent Communication" or NVC, which some of you may be familiar with. I struggle with this name as I don't believe that either the Nonviolent or the Communication piece really articulates what it's about. My working explanation for Nonviolent Communication goes like this: Nonviolent Communication is not only a language and process for expressing ourselves and hearing others, it is also [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T20:08:55-07:00May 28th, 2013|Categories: NVC|Tags: choice, communication skills, Compassionate Communication, Conflict Resolution, connection, decision making, empowerment, equality, freedom, getting along, healing, human relationships, Marshall Rosenberg, Needs, needs and strategies, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, NVC practice, Power with, relationship building, respect, Self-determination, self-responsability, win-win|5 Comments