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Subconscious Family Patterning

Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:12:55-07:00June 21st, 2020|Categories: Family|Tags: choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, freedom, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious beliefs, Subconscious patterning|2 Comments

Finding who you be beyond your family

Finding who you BE beyond your family Through some deep work and exploration with one of my clients, what I'm coming to see as a real step into adulthood is being able to create yourself and your life beyond your family. That is, to choose for you your own beliefs, thoughts, ideas, or ways of being. To make choices about how you spend your time and run your life based on what you want and what works for you, [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:00:04-07:00June 11th, 2020|Categories: Family, Transformation|Tags: adulthood, Autonomy, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, family, Family patterning, Family programming, freedom, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons from Depression: Self Denial

Lessons from Depression Lesson Number Two: There's some part of me that I'm denying Another discovery I'm having around depression is that when it is mine, it usually means that I'm cutting myself off from some part of myself- that I am engaging in some form of self-denial. This could be something I don't want to be aware of- like how angry I am- or having lots of judgment and wrongness toward myself rather than space and acceptance. How [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:45:08-07:00March 9th, 2020|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: connection, empowerment, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons From Depression: Is this even mine?

Lessons from Depression I'm no stranger to depression. It's something that has been part of my reality, probably since I was about 11 when my beloved teacher of four years died of cancer and I was moving away from childhood into puberty. Dealing with hormonal changes and confronting the realities of life and death at 11 on my own were way too much for my 11-year-old self to handle. So I just kind of cut myself off from [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:25:35-07:00February 1st, 2020|Categories: Depression|Tags: Awareness, Consciousness, depression, empowerment, freedom, happiness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-awareness, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

What do YOU know about YOU?

What do YOU know about YOU? What If somewhere deep down inside of you you KNOW what is true for you, YOU know what is going on for you and what you need to do to shift the places you are stuck or that you feel aren't working in your life? What if no-one, no matter how educated, smart, perceptive, intuitive, or magical knows better than you what is right and true for you? Yet, how often do [...]

By Elana|2015-04-03T16:45:48-07:00April 3rd, 2015|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, healing, personal empowerment, Self-determination, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons from depression: Support your body

Lessons from Depression: Lesson Three: Your Body Might Need Some Support From You As much as I see depression as a symptom- often of something going on in the psyche, some place we are cutting ourselves off from ourselves and our awareness- I know for me it was also important to address the condition of my physical body. Your body also might desire and require additional support and help to balance that it hasn't been getting. I started feeling [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:51-08:00March 25th, 2015|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: body, connection, Consciousness, Cooperation, depression, empowerment, healing, health, nutrition, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self regulation, Transformation, wellbeing|0 Comments

What else is possible when you surrender the past?

What Else is Possible When You Surrender the Past and Truly Create Your Life from the Present? Welcome to this New Year! This new moment that is full of possibility that has never been before. How true is that of every moment, not just the turn of the year? How true is it for you? Most of us are not living from a place of connection to the possibility within each new moment. Most of us are busy [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:01:26-08:00January 4th, 2015|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Being present, Consciousness, Creating change, Creating your life, empowerment, letting go of the past, New Years resolutions, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Possibility, Presence, Self-determination, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

Stop using Money as your excuse

Stop Using Money As Your Excuse to Stop You Would all you fabulous, creative, talented, expansive beings please please stop stopping you with money? Ooooh, I know that's a button pusher for some of you! But truly, where do you give your power away to money? Do you determine the life you're willing or able to have based on how much money you have in your possession or have decided is coming to you? How many of you [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:41-08:00September 30th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, choice, Money, personal empowerment, Presence, question, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

Positivity and it’s unintended consequences

Positivity and its Unintended Consequences I have noticed a trend in the world I live in toward extreme positivity and optimism. There are even many teachers and leaders and celebrity advocates in the world of positive thinking. While I do see great value on accentuating the positive, and that it can be a powerful tool to transform our experiences, I think it also has its unintended consequences. One of these consequences is to be in denial about the [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:29-08:00July 31st, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Consciousness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Transformation|1 Comment

Trust yourself and choose for you

Trust Yourself and Choose for YOU no Justification or Explanation required I am finding the courage to just walk away. Walk away from situations, conditions, dynamics, ways of being and engaging that aren't serving me or resonate for me. Knowing what's true for me in a given moment and trusting and following that truth. It feels truly liberating. No explaining, no justifying, no arguing with myself, also no blame, just clear, present choice about what works for me, how I [...]

By Elana|2019-12-08T18:56:43-08:00June 13th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Being present, care-taking, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, freedom, personal empowerment, self-confidence, self-respect, Self-trust, trusting yourself, yes|2 Comments

Mind the Gap

Mind the Gap: Perhaps you've walked away from a situation or condition that you have been tolerating or that is no-longer serving you and at first it feels liberating. Then you start to wonder if you made the right choice, if things will work out, if you were just overreacting or being silly, if maybe you could have worked things out after all. Maybe you're even considering going back... to the job, to the relationship, to the circumstances that challenged [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:58-08:00May 1st, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: change, Consciousness, empowerment, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation, Vision|0 Comments

The voice that speaks inside

The Voice That Speaks InsideThe Voice, by Shel SilversteinAhh, yes! The voice that speaks inside. And yet, how often do we deny or crush that voice? How often do we argue with that voice or make it wrong?What if you're not wrong? What if you stopped drowning out that voice and started listening to its every little whisper? What would it have to tell you? What would it show you about your life, about your heart, about your [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:28-08:00April 25th, 2014|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, connection, empowerment, freedom, inner voice, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Self-trust, Social Construction of Childhood|1 Comment

“GOOD” relationships…

"GOOD Relationships" "It only takes one person to have a good relationship..." I heard that piece of information from Byron Katie a while back, but it has taken me a quite a while to really get its meaning. What does that mean? How can that be? My friend was there to listen and make this a good relationship... even if I wasn't having it. So often we blame our partner for how the relationship is [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:02:30-08:00January 15th, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, Byron Katie, choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, healing, peace, personal empowerment, personal power, relationship, relationship building, respect, self-respect|3 Comments

Create Your Year

Create Your Year the Way You Would Like It's a New Year. For many this signifies new beginnings, an opportunity to start fresh, to resolve to take on a new habit, let go of one that doesn't serve you or just the hope and promise that this year will be better than the last. Yet how many of you actually follow through on your new year's resolutions? How closely does your New Year become what you wish it [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:02:30-08:00January 6th, 2014|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation|Tags: Awareness, choice, Consciousness, Creating your life, empowerment, Goals, New Years resolutions, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Transformation|0 Comments

Flexing Your Positivity Muscle

Flexing your Positivity Muscle Yes, positivity is like a muscle, it gets stronger the more we use it. Same with negativity. Which muscles have you been flexing lately? Here's a daily exercise routine to help you build strength in positivity: You notice you're awake What are the first thoughts you are thinking? How do those thoughts make you feel? If it's something other than along the lines of grateful, joyful, happy and excited to be alive, there's some [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:20:40-08:00October 25th, 2013|Categories: Transformation|Tags: empowerment, personal empowerment, positivity, self-help|0 Comments