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Subconscious Family Patterning

Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:12:55-07:00June 21st, 2020|Categories: Family|Tags: choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, freedom, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious beliefs, Subconscious patterning|2 Comments

Finding who you be beyond your family

Finding who you BE beyond your family Through some deep work and exploration with one of my clients, what I'm coming to see as a real step into adulthood is being able to create yourself and your life beyond your family. That is, to choose for you your own beliefs, thoughts, ideas, or ways of being. To make choices about how you spend your time and run your life based on what you want and what works for you, [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:00:04-07:00June 11th, 2020|Categories: Family, Transformation|Tags: adulthood, Autonomy, choice, Consciousness, empowerment, family, Family patterning, Family programming, freedom, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation|0 Comments

Emancipating Your Anger

Emancipating Your Anger So, I recently spent the whole day super duper depressed. That doesn't happen to me very often anymore but when it does it can be super intense. There are those days that I experience a little wave of depression and easily find my way out of it, (Hint: Who does this belong to?) and then there are those days when nothing seems to help. This was one of those days. What I discovered at the end [...]

By Elana|2020-03-12T16:39:42-07:00March 11th, 2020|Categories: Depression, Transformation, Uncategorized|Tags: Anger, Awareness, connection, Consciousness, depression, Personal Development, self-respect, Transformation|2 Comments

Lessons from Depression: Self Denial

Lessons from Depression Lesson Number Two: There's some part of me that I'm denying Another discovery I'm having around depression is that when it is mine, it usually means that I'm cutting myself off from some part of myself- that I am engaging in some form of self-denial. This could be something I don't want to be aware of- like how angry I am- or having lots of judgment and wrongness toward myself rather than space and acceptance. How [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:45:08-07:00March 9th, 2020|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: connection, empowerment, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-help, self-respect, Self-trust, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons From Depression: Is this even mine?

Lessons from Depression I'm no stranger to depression. It's something that has been part of my reality, probably since I was about 11 when my beloved teacher of four years died of cancer and I was moving away from childhood into puberty. Dealing with hormonal changes and confronting the realities of life and death at 11 on my own were way too much for my 11-year-old self to handle. So I just kind of cut myself off from [...]

By Elana|2020-03-10T19:25:35-07:00February 1st, 2020|Categories: Depression|Tags: Awareness, Consciousness, depression, empowerment, freedom, happiness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self-awareness, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

How far have you already come?

How far have you already come? Have you ever changed something or overcome something in your life and then almost forgotten about it, or who you used to be? Like the way you are now is the way you've always been? Sometimes what I've noticed happens after a big shift or transformation, is that we feel different and once we've integrated the shift we proceed from that different place as if it's our new normal. Because it now [...]

By Elana|2019-12-26T15:32:19-08:00December 26th, 2019|Categories: Transformation|Tags: appreciation, celebration, Consciousness, empowerment, Gratitude, growth, peace, Personal Development, positivity, self-help, self-respect, thanskgiving, Transformation|0 Comments

Who is Anyone to Anyone?

Who is Anyone to Anyone? How the conceptions we have of others keep us and them from changing or being known for who we truly are I go through lots of change. The person I was three months ago, doesn't actually exist anymore. Except to the people I haven't seen in three months, that's how they know me- or even more likely they don't actually have the three month old model of me but one much older than that which is [...]

By Elana|2015-05-16T01:50:05-07:00May 5th, 2015|Categories: Family, Transformation|Tags: Being present, connection, Consciousness, family, freedom, peace, Personal Development, relationship building, respect, Self-determination, Transformation|0 Comments

Lessons from depression: Support your body

Lessons from Depression: Lesson Three: Your Body Might Need Some Support From You As much as I see depression as a symptom- often of something going on in the psyche, some place we are cutting ourselves off from ourselves and our awareness- I know for me it was also important to address the condition of my physical body. Your body also might desire and require additional support and help to balance that it hasn't been getting. I started feeling [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:51-08:00March 25th, 2015|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: body, connection, Consciousness, Cooperation, depression, empowerment, healing, health, nutrition, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self regulation, Transformation, wellbeing|0 Comments

What else is possible when you surrender the past?

What Else is Possible When You Surrender the Past and Truly Create Your Life from the Present? Welcome to this New Year! This new moment that is full of possibility that has never been before. How true is that of every moment, not just the turn of the year? How true is it for you? Most of us are not living from a place of connection to the possibility within each new moment. Most of us are busy [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:01:26-08:00January 4th, 2015|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Awareness, Being present, Consciousness, Creating change, Creating your life, empowerment, letting go of the past, New Years resolutions, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Possibility, Presence, Self-determination, self-help, Transformation|0 Comments

Some thoughts on Maturity

Some Thoughts on Maturity What does maturity mean to you? What makes someone mature or immature? I began to more-deeply investigate the question of maturity when I noticed I was repeatedly judging someone in my life as immature. Being a practitioner of Nonviolent Communication, which invites us to move beyond our judgement to see more clearly what is actually occurring, I wanted to really unpack what behaviors or ways of being I was labeling as immature. What I came to see [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:09:34-08:00August 22nd, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Awareness, choice, Compassionate Communication, connection, Consciousness, freedom, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, Personal Development, Self-determination|1 Comment

Positivity and it’s unintended consequences

Positivity and its Unintended Consequences I have noticed a trend in the world I live in toward extreme positivity and optimism. There are even many teachers and leaders and celebrity advocates in the world of positive thinking. While I do see great value on accentuating the positive, and that it can be a powerful tool to transform our experiences, I think it also has its unintended consequences. One of these consequences is to be in denial about the [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:29-08:00July 31st, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: Consciousness, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Transformation|1 Comment

Mind the Gap

Mind the Gap: Perhaps you've walked away from a situation or condition that you have been tolerating or that is no-longer serving you and at first it feels liberating. Then you start to wonder if you made the right choice, if things will work out, if you were just overreacting or being silly, if maybe you could have worked things out after all. Maybe you're even considering going back... to the job, to the relationship, to the circumstances that challenged [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:03:58-08:00May 1st, 2014|Categories: Uncategorized|Tags: change, Consciousness, empowerment, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Self-determination, Transformation, Vision|0 Comments

Create Your Year

Create Your Year the Way You Would Like It's a New Year. For many this signifies new beginnings, an opportunity to start fresh, to resolve to take on a new habit, let go of one that doesn't serve you or just the hope and promise that this year will be better than the last. Yet how many of you actually follow through on your new year's resolutions? How closely does your New Year become what you wish it [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:02:30-08:00January 6th, 2014|Categories: Creating your life, Transformation|Tags: Awareness, choice, Consciousness, Creating your life, empowerment, Goals, New Years resolutions, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Transformation|0 Comments

Being in Acceptance

Being in Acceptance I've been writing a lot about choosing, about honoring your YES and Your NO, on being intolerant, essentially on truly listening to yourself, knowing what's true for you and honoring that. Though it may at first appear contradictory, today I want to write about acceptance You may have heard the statement “what you resist persists.” Maybe you've even found it to be true... As long as we are resisting something, in opposition to something, we [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:38:34-08:00September 5th, 2013|Categories: Transformation|Tags: Acceptance, Awareness, Being present, choice, Consciousness, healing, peace, Personal Development, personal empowerment, Presence, self-help, Transformation|2 Comments

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