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Subconscious Family Patterning

Subconscious Family Patterning Have you ever noticed that family relationships can be some of the most challenging? This is often because there is a lifetime of history we are bringing into each interaction, history that often includes painful experiences of not having our needs met from people who we have an evolutionary expectation to meet them... history that often includes struggles for power in one way or another, struggles to meet those needs, or get the people we [...]

By Elana|2020-06-23T00:12:55-06:00June 21st, 2020|Categories: Family|Tags: choice, connection, Consciousness, empowerment, family, freedom, healing, Personal Development, personal empowerment, relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, self-respect, subconscious beliefs, Subconscious patterning|2 Comments

Lessons from depression: Support your body

Lessons from Depression: Lesson Three: Your Body Might Need Some Support From You As much as I see depression as a symptom- often of something going on in the psyche, some place we are cutting ourselves off from ourselves and our awareness- I know for me it was also important to address the condition of my physical body. Your body also might desire and require additional support and help to balance that it hasn't been getting. I started feeling [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T07:04:51-07:00March 25th, 2015|Categories: Depression, Uncategorized|Tags: body, connection, Consciousness, Cooperation, depression, empowerment, healing, health, nutrition, Personal Development, personal empowerment, self regulation, Transformation, wellbeing|0 Comments

Begin with the End in Mind

Begin with the End in Mind Begin. With the end. In mind. I can't tell you how true this is becoming for me, particularly and acutely in how I relate to and engage with other people. Often acting or engaging in ways that have not contributed to creating the kind of connection or engagement I desire, I have begun to really think before I act... So often we choose the opposite. We choose actions that are very unlikely [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T04:15:06-07:00October 17th, 2013|Categories: NVC, relationship|Tags: Awareness, communication skills, connection, empowerment, Nonviolent Communication, NVC, personal empowerment, relationship building, self regulation, Self-determination, self-help|1 Comment

Disengaging for greater engagment

Disengaging for Greater Engagement Do you know how to take a step back? To take some space? To allow for distance? To disengage? Have you allowed yourself to experience the sweetness and benefit that comes when you do? Most of us don't give ourselves this gift, and it can be at great cost to ourselves and our relationships. If you're an empath, if you're sensitive and pick up on what's happening around you then chances are, taking [...]

By Elana|2019-11-23T03:01:05-07:00July 13th, 2013|Categories: being an empath, Depression, Transformation|Tags: Autonomy, Being present, choice, connection, Consciousness, emapth, energy, personal space, Presence, self regulation, self-care, self-help, space, Transformation|3 Comments

leave us kids alone… at least until we ask for your involvement

I am re-reading a children's classic-Tom Sawyer. I am struck not only by the high level of autonomy and freedom the boys posses in this book, but also the great degree of self-confidence, trust and self-reliance. The reality of structure, supervision and control of kids lives has become, for the most part, the predominate experience. Between sports and homework and whatever extra-curricular activities kids are involved in- when is there time to play, to discover, to imagine, to [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T07:14:35-07:00June 22nd, 2011|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood|Tags: Autonomy, child Empowerment, childhood, children's rights, Chris mercogliano, decision making, free play, freedom, self regulation, Self-determination, self-directed learning, Social Construction of Childhood|4 Comments

Kids Trusting Themselves

Kids Trusting Themselves Thinking children incompetent or not realizing just how capable they actually are, perhaps because we have provided them little opportunity to demonstrate their capabilities, keeps us managing their lives rather than trusting them to make decisions and be responsible for themselves. Such acts foster a relationship of dependence and enforce inequality and inability rather than bring children into parity. By constantly making decisions for kids and managing their lives we are also teaching them to [...]

By Elana|2020-02-05T06:59:33-07:00June 12th, 2011|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood|Tags: Autonomy, child Empowerment, child rearing, decision making, John Holt, Louise Dietzel, Marshall Rosenberg, Matt Hern, P.E.T., Parent-child relationships, self regulation, Self-determination, Thomas Gordon, win-win|0 Comments

Freedom of Movement- Part 4 in series on body space/movement

Children’s Freedom of Movement The issues of space and the control of a person’s body also extend to the control of their range of movement. Not only do we invade and control children’s physical bodies/space but the way that children can move about in the world is often severely limited. Children have their movement restricted and are not free to move about as they please. They may be confined to a specific room (such as “the toddler room”) [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T07:00:46-07:00May 13th, 2011|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, body space/movement|Tags: Autonomy, child Empowerment, freedom, personal space, physical space, self regulation, Self-determination, Social Construction of Childhood|0 Comments

Respecting Kid’s Personal and Physical Space- part one of series on body space/freedom of movement

Personal and Physical Space Personal and bodily space are interesting facets of people’s lives, ones that we generally consider the private and sovereign domain of the individual, and that the individual has the right to control and protect. Violations of personal and especially bodily space, particularly by strangers, is taken as quite a serious offense. Control of another person’s body, both in restriction of movement and in control of function, is quite literally imprisonment/slavery. While children are initially [...]

By Elana|2019-11-22T06:38:28-07:00April 29th, 2011|Categories: A new Paradigm for childhood, body space/movement|Tags: Adult-child Relationships, Autonomy, boundaries, child Empowerment, children's rights, choice, connection, decision making, freedom, personal space, physical space, Power with, respect, self regulation, Self-determination, Wilhelm Reich|4 Comments

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